Finding good quality friends can take time. As adults, there are less social structures to support the idea of finding and developing great friendships, which sometimes lead us down the broken path of hanging out with ‘what’s her face’ just to avoid Friday night loneliness. Although situations like this help void the temporary feels of not having close friends, it’s important to understand that quality friendships are extremely valuable to our mental health.
Our friendships are among the most valuable relationships that we have. Friendships in a more ‘subtle’ term are a transactional agreement, where we gain in various different ways just as much as we give. Our friends can be an outlet that we can use as a support mechanism during times where we cannot share information with the family. Although friendships can put us to the test when we get frustrated that they may not share the same political views as us, we still need them.
Friendships are integral to our mental health. They help protect us from pain, anxiety, stress and other negative emotions that can sometimes overwhelm our bodies. They’re a sounding board that can keep us grounded and can help bring us back down to reality by helping put things into perspective.
Although friendships can take a lot of work and maintenance, we need to invest time and effort into taking care of them because they form one of the foundations of our ability to cope with the problems that life throws at us. Friendships can play a key role in helping someone live with or recover from mental health problems, and or overcome isolation that often can come with it.
But that doesn’t mean we need to sell ourselves short by becoming mates with the next random that walks into our lives. Quality friendships are super important. And just like finding a significant other, it requires deep assessment to investigate whether they’re the kinda pal you wanna trade time with.
So how do you know if they’re the right ‘fit’ for your mental and physical health?
- They ask you questions about yourself and listen emphatically to your answers.
- They talk comfortably about their inner world and can be emotionally vulnerable.
- They’re honest, accountable, are able to admit their mistakes, and follow through on what they say they’ll do.
- They can manage their emotions effectively most of the time.
- They take good care of themselves mentally, emotionally, and physically.
- They are comfortable being alone or being with people.
- They can seek, accept, and give help.
Obviously, life can’t always be roses but choosing people who make you feel good about being a better version of yourself are the ones who want the best for you.